I read an interesting post today on Speaking of China about another blogger who concluded after one date with a Chinese guy that Chinese folks in general have weird dating standards. Speaking of China asked its readers to come up with their own blogs to refute the other blogger’s conclusions.
This generalization is something I’m very aware of as I work on my memoir about my previous marriage to a man from China. But even more pressing for me, I worry how blanket statements like this affect my son. His father is Chinese, he has a Chinese name, and he identifies as Chinese.
I know the media can have a devastating effect on kids. What they see on TV, YouTube, and in the movies seems more like reality to them than pure entertainment. But I also think these avenues can be positive for teens like my son.
So this weekend I suggested we watch Johnnie To’s class Exiled, a Chinese take on spaghetti westerns, this one set in Macau. I hadn’t seen it, but Jake and I watched another Johnnie To flick set in Hong Kong and both enjoyed it. Exiled has a mostly male cast of movie stars I adore, so why not?
The greatest thing about these movie stars is that they’re all older than I am. How cool to see these guys in their mid-to-late 40s and even 50s hit it out of the park in this high-stakes action movie?
And then there’s Simon Yam, who was dreamy when I lived in Hong Kong in the 90s and hasn’t changed a bit. One of my favorite actors ever.
Richie Ren is a Taiwan heartthrob who usually plays a silent stunner in Johnnie To flicks. Here he’s a crooked Macanese cop with a heart (and pockets) of gold.
(Disclaimer about the violence of this movie: I am not a gun person to say the least. But I have no problem with them in the movies. Hong Kong is one of the safest cities in the world and it’s because only the police and military carry guns. Jake understands this, and we’ve had many discussions about how you can still be anti-gun yet enjoy Hong Kong gangster movies.)
If you have any thoughts on this subject, I would love to hear them.